is actually a very simple thing to achieve. Firstly, she has to feel safe and relaxed. This needs to be either at home or in a place she's equally comfortable, with a person she loves(openly or secretly) that isn't afraid to put in a little time and effort and has the attention span to commit to her desires. Candles help(think of what she would do if she was just going to masturbate--then take it to a new level).
After the comfort in her safety is established, focus on her relaxation. Crank up the thermostat a bit, so she stays warm(ya'll are going to be naked for a while) and give her a massage. It doesn't have to be a great one, just one that releases some of her tension and focus on erotic hot spots. Skip the breasts, skip the vagina, but pay lots of attention to around the breast and the pelvic area(the inside of the hip bones are very neurogenous areas) and the inner leg--from the knee to the vagina will get her very much ready to go. Make sure her ass doesn't fall asleep.
When you've had your fill of playing with her and you're ready to dive in, wipe off the lotion/lube around her thighs and vagina and get in position. Start extreamely gently and never begin at the clitoris. Kiss her thighs, her labia and above her vagina. After a few minutes, begin incidently brushing her clitoris. If she loves her ass played with and is very open about it, go ahead and start rubbing the outside of her anus with your finger, if you two haven't gotten to that point yet, skip it and we'll use that weapon later.
By now, she should be bursting with excitement. You haven't directly started stimulating her clitoris or g-spot(if she has one) yet, so you've pretty much just been teasing her for the past few minutes. This next part is where a good lover shines:
Gently begin giving her clitoris some attention. Just slowly and gently give it a few sucks and licks, but still give the rest of her area down there equal time. After a while:
The next section is where you show how well you can read this woman.
If you want, nows the time to go get some ice(quickly) or have some next to the bed in a glass. Pop it in your mouth and let it cool your tongue. Alternatively, if she's very open about enjoying anal stimulation and frequently requests a finger in her ass or something similar, nows the time to begin penetrating her ass with your finger.
If ass play is a new thing to her, then don't touch it yet. You'll use that secret weapon to surprise her and push her over the edge to an amazing orgasm later.
This is the work phase. You're focusing on the clitoris, but not too much. Spread your love around. She loves her labia sucked, her thighs kissed and her pussy penetrated(usually). Spend about 90% of each minute on her clit and the other 6 seconds in other areas, but she'll show you where to go. Go where her squirming is taking you. She will move her hips, telling you where to go with her actions. Keep her moaning and anticipate what she won't expect next and do it.
OK, now she's ready to go. She's either shoving your face into her vagina or she's bucking like crazy. Now is the time to pull out the stops. 90% just turned into 100% with one exception: if she isn't into ass play, she is RIGHT NOW and only now. Brush your tongue over her anus. Just once. It will surprise her and she will love it. She will moan with fucking pleasure. Don't do it twice. The surprise is gone. Some women will try to delay their orgasm because this feels so good. I advise not to let her try. If she pushes your head away while she's obviously about to cum, hold her arms down and finish the job
If she gets close and loses it, you may have just added 5+ minutes of work phase to get back to where she was.
If you don't remember anything else in this guide, remember this: PAY ATTENTION TO WHAT SHE IS SHOWING YOU! She's rocking her hips for a reason. She wants you to move your attention to a different area or slow down/speed up. Learn what she wants and how she shows it. Good luck and god speed. And if you're a woman, you're welcome for the masturbation material.
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