By all means, if it makes you happy, then go for it. I don't care. Alls I can talk about is my view and preferances.
I have nothing against hooking up with a hot MILF or a DILF, for you females, but any kind of relationship is probably just a bad idea. I'm talking about this because I know a lot of women that date/are married to WAY older men and I got offered a blind date last night:
"Jay, I've got a blind date for you."
"Cool, tell me about her."
"Well, she's from England."
"Oh, ok. What else? How old is she?"
"She's 39."
o____________o
"Uhh... Er... I'm 25. That's a bit out of my age range."
"What's your age range?"
"Guh... 23.. to... maybe 30?"
"Eh.. You make me feel old."
She's 31. Her husband is almost 50, so I was treading this water lightly. I thanked her, turned her down and went back to work.
Again, by all means, if it makes you happy, that's all that matters. More power to you. But dating outside your age is a BAD IDEA for most people. A man that's in his 40s and is picking up women in their 20s or a man in his 30s picking up women in their fucking TEENS is a frank garauntee of GROSS immaturity.
Older people have been in your shoes and have had the problems of a 20-something-year-old. The first time you hear a younger person say, "Oh wow, have you heard of this band called Metallica? They kick ass!" should immediately turn you off of younger mates. Yes, we heard of Metallica and had already gotten sick of them by the time you discovered power rangers and teen titans. And it's not just bands that sold out long ago. Every subject is like this. We've been there. We've done that. We don't want to do it again. But for some reason, some immature people do.
There are perfect matches for imperfect people. There are warped teens that were abused as children and fat bishes that deserve older, grossly immature men.
But let's look at what it means for a young man to have a relationship with an older woman:
What goes through the young man's mind? Is she hot? Maybe, but she'd be hotter 10-20 years younger. Will she respect him as much as a younger woman? Probably not. Does he know this? If he doesnt, he'll find out.
So why would HE do this? Inexperience, low self-esteam, and most likely, some fetish are my guesses.
-every thing bellow this line is me guessing/speculating-
Now why would an older woman date a much younger man? Let's think of it from her point of view: What can he offer her? Or better yet, what is she expecting from having a serious relationship with this young man? Kids? Money? Not likely. She's probably got both by this point. Companionship? If she's looking for long-term companionship with a much younger man, then her expectations are very low or her sex drive is in full swing and isn't being sated and she doesn't want a real relationship....
Faaaurk... Now I kinda want to go on that date just to get some booty... BUT NO.... My standards are high and I want to find a woman to love for a long time. I MUST BE STRONG!!!
Monday, March 5, 2012
Sunday, February 26, 2012
Attraction, fascination, trust and confidence: that chick stuff that makes or breaks great sex
These are the four keys on the check list to having great sex, hooking up for the first time and having a loving relationship, but they need to be established long before the actual act. And much more importantly, they need to be maintained during a relationship. Men and women cheat when their partner can only give 3/4. Men and women break up when when they lose 2/4.
But for the purposes of this guide, I'm going to focus on how these four things can get you laid and make her feel good about doing you.
FASCINATION
Be confident and have a good reason to be. Be funny. Hobbies and interests that she doesn't know as much about are your friend.
ATTRACTION
The three things that turn women on the most:
A clean bathroom with girly hand soap
No dirty dishes in the sink
A clean floor
TRUST
Let her get to know you: you're a funny, respectful and confident guy. Let her figure that out before you get her to a place where you're going to put the moves on her. How? Just talk to her and make her laugh.
CONFIDENCE
HER insecurities will thwart your efforts. Her confidence in what she's doing is important. The more support you give her and the more relaxed she is about her insecurities, the more likely you'll get to probe them in the bedroom.
But for the purposes of this guide, I'm going to focus on how these four things can get you laid and make her feel good about doing you.
FASCINATION
Be confident and have a good reason to be. Be funny. Hobbies and interests that she doesn't know as much about are your friend.
ATTRACTION
The three things that turn women on the most:
A clean bathroom with girly hand soap
No dirty dishes in the sink
A clean floor
TRUST
Let her get to know you: you're a funny, respectful and confident guy. Let her figure that out before you get her to a place where you're going to put the moves on her. How? Just talk to her and make her laugh.
CONFIDENCE
HER insecurities will thwart your efforts. Her confidence in what she's doing is important. The more support you give her and the more relaxed she is about her insecurities, the more likely you'll get to probe them in the bedroom.
Saturday, February 25, 2012
THE BEST ORAL SEX SHE'S EVER HAD
is actually a very simple thing to achieve. Firstly, she has to feel safe and relaxed. This needs to be either at home or in a place she's equally comfortable, with a person she loves(openly or secretly) that isn't afraid to put in a little time and effort and has the attention span to commit to her desires. Candles help(think of what she would do if she was just going to masturbate--then take it to a new level).
After the comfort in her safety is established, focus on her relaxation. Crank up the thermostat a bit, so she stays warm(ya'll are going to be naked for a while) and give her a massage. It doesn't have to be a great one, just one that releases some of her tension and focus on erotic hot spots. Skip the breasts, skip the vagina, but pay lots of attention to around the breast and the pelvic area(the inside of the hip bones are very neurogenous areas) and the inner leg--from the knee to the vagina will get her very much ready to go. Make sure her ass doesn't fall asleep.
When you've had your fill of playing with her and you're ready to dive in, wipe off the lotion/lube around her thighs and vagina and get in position. Start extreamely gently and never begin at the clitoris. Kiss her thighs, her labia and above her vagina. After a few minutes, begin incidently brushing her clitoris. If she loves her ass played with and is very open about it, go ahead and start rubbing the outside of her anus with your finger, if you two haven't gotten to that point yet, skip it and we'll use that weapon later.
By now, she should be bursting with excitement. You haven't directly started stimulating her clitoris or g-spot(if she has one) yet, so you've pretty much just been teasing her for the past few minutes. This next part is where a good lover shines:
Gently begin giving her clitoris some attention. Just slowly and gently give it a few sucks and licks, but still give the rest of her area down there equal time. After a while:
The next section is where you show how well you can read this woman.
If you want, nows the time to go get some ice(quickly) or have some next to the bed in a glass. Pop it in your mouth and let it cool your tongue. Alternatively, if she's very open about enjoying anal stimulation and frequently requests a finger in her ass or something similar, nows the time to begin penetrating her ass with your finger.
If ass play is a new thing to her, then don't touch it yet. You'll use that secret weapon to surprise her and push her over the edge to an amazing orgasm later.
This is the work phase. You're focusing on the clitoris, but not too much. Spread your love around. She loves her labia sucked, her thighs kissed and her pussy penetrated(usually). Spend about 90% of each minute on her clit and the other 6 seconds in other areas, but she'll show you where to go. Go where her squirming is taking you. She will move her hips, telling you where to go with her actions. Keep her moaning and anticipate what she won't expect next and do it.
OK, now she's ready to go. She's either shoving your face into her vagina or she's bucking like crazy. Now is the time to pull out the stops. 90% just turned into 100% with one exception: if she isn't into ass play, she is RIGHT NOW and only now. Brush your tongue over her anus. Just once. It will surprise her and she will love it. She will moan with fucking pleasure. Don't do it twice. The surprise is gone. Some women will try to delay their orgasm because this feels so good. I advise not to let her try. If she pushes your head away while she's obviously about to cum, hold her arms down and finish the job
If she gets close and loses it, you may have just added 5+ minutes of work phase to get back to where she was.
If you don't remember anything else in this guide, remember this: PAY ATTENTION TO WHAT SHE IS SHOWING YOU! She's rocking her hips for a reason. She wants you to move your attention to a different area or slow down/speed up. Learn what she wants and how she shows it. Good luck and god speed. And if you're a woman, you're welcome for the masturbation material.
After the comfort in her safety is established, focus on her relaxation. Crank up the thermostat a bit, so she stays warm(ya'll are going to be naked for a while) and give her a massage. It doesn't have to be a great one, just one that releases some of her tension and focus on erotic hot spots. Skip the breasts, skip the vagina, but pay lots of attention to around the breast and the pelvic area(the inside of the hip bones are very neurogenous areas) and the inner leg--from the knee to the vagina will get her very much ready to go. Make sure her ass doesn't fall asleep.
When you've had your fill of playing with her and you're ready to dive in, wipe off the lotion/lube around her thighs and vagina and get in position. Start extreamely gently and never begin at the clitoris. Kiss her thighs, her labia and above her vagina. After a few minutes, begin incidently brushing her clitoris. If she loves her ass played with and is very open about it, go ahead and start rubbing the outside of her anus with your finger, if you two haven't gotten to that point yet, skip it and we'll use that weapon later.
By now, she should be bursting with excitement. You haven't directly started stimulating her clitoris or g-spot(if she has one) yet, so you've pretty much just been teasing her for the past few minutes. This next part is where a good lover shines:
Gently begin giving her clitoris some attention. Just slowly and gently give it a few sucks and licks, but still give the rest of her area down there equal time. After a while:
The next section is where you show how well you can read this woman.
If you want, nows the time to go get some ice(quickly) or have some next to the bed in a glass. Pop it in your mouth and let it cool your tongue. Alternatively, if she's very open about enjoying anal stimulation and frequently requests a finger in her ass or something similar, nows the time to begin penetrating her ass with your finger.
If ass play is a new thing to her, then don't touch it yet. You'll use that secret weapon to surprise her and push her over the edge to an amazing orgasm later.
This is the work phase. You're focusing on the clitoris, but not too much. Spread your love around. She loves her labia sucked, her thighs kissed and her pussy penetrated(usually). Spend about 90% of each minute on her clit and the other 6 seconds in other areas, but she'll show you where to go. Go where her squirming is taking you. She will move her hips, telling you where to go with her actions. Keep her moaning and anticipate what she won't expect next and do it.
OK, now she's ready to go. She's either shoving your face into her vagina or she's bucking like crazy. Now is the time to pull out the stops. 90% just turned into 100% with one exception: if she isn't into ass play, she is RIGHT NOW and only now. Brush your tongue over her anus. Just once. It will surprise her and she will love it. She will moan with fucking pleasure. Don't do it twice. The surprise is gone. Some women will try to delay their orgasm because this feels so good. I advise not to let her try. If she pushes your head away while she's obviously about to cum, hold her arms down and finish the job
If she gets close and loses it, you may have just added 5+ minutes of work phase to get back to where she was.
If you don't remember anything else in this guide, remember this: PAY ATTENTION TO WHAT SHE IS SHOWING YOU! She's rocking her hips for a reason. She wants you to move your attention to a different area or slow down/speed up. Learn what she wants and how she shows it. Good luck and god speed. And if you're a woman, you're welcome for the masturbation material.
THE DIFFERENT TYPES OF VAGINAS
There are three main types of vaginas and a few major quirks that can be game changers(from my experience). I will be describing the different types, their sensitivity(in relation to their g-spot and clitoris), and the kind of women that they're attached to.
Keep in mind that ALL women can get off from clitoral stimulation, if her mood is right and you learn how to read her. It can take a couple tries to learn what they like(because many women wont even fucking let you know beforehand). Women do specific things when they need you to change what you're doing. She will rock her hips to guide you where to go and how fast/hard to do it.
FIRST TYPE
The most common type of vagina is the one with a short clitoris and a little feeling in the vagina. They have the most stereotypical g-spot: about an inch inside, behind the clit. These women are the ones that fake orgasms most frequently because they don't usually achieve orgasms from just sex. If you're not a fucking athlete(pun intended), then getting these women off in most positions is a rare occurrence. Sex has to be geared(at least in part) towards what gets her off. It's easiest for them to get off on top(but she'll let you know that by throwing you off and mounting you when she gets close or she's just had enough).
They actually have the ability to get off without much emotion(at least more so then the second type). I believe it's because their g-spot is so small that when their g-spot is being stimulated, it excites them much more and they're compelled to take advantage of the situation. They typically enjoy penetration(g-spot stimulation and the feeling of a penis inside her; I'm making this distinction for a reason) much more then clitoral stimulation. It's easiest for them to get off while they are in control.
SECOND TYPE
The second most common type of vagina is the one with the large clitoris(~1/4 in. long and larger) and has a lot of feeling in the vagina. If your penis is in her, you're hitting her g-spot. These women don't necessarily get off the most frequently because sex is much more emotional for them. If she's not in the mood, you're not going to get her off. But if she IS in the mood, then hold on. These are the women that can cum 8 times in one night and can squirt(usually only from clitoral stimulation or intense g-spot stimulation). If you treat her right, you will both benefit from it greatly.
THIRD TYPE
The third type of vagina is the one with a varying sized clit(though usually smaller then average) and not enough feeling in the vagina to really say it has a g-spot. No matter what, these women cannot cum from intercourse alone. Some women have absolutely no feeling at all in their vagina and really only feel a little pressure(like pressing on your arm after you make it fall asleep by laying on it) or pain from tearing/stretching, but that's much rarer then simply not having a g-spot.
The good thing about this type of woman is that they're usually the least crazy(Now that I think about it, the only ex-gfs I talk to are the ones that I couldn't get off through intercourse alone) and the most likely to try new shit in the bedroom. And I'm told that you can have a nice sexual relationship that revolves around oral and anal sex.
That's the basic 101 on the way vaginas are built in relation to how they get off. Though, when whoever it was said, "all vaginas are different", they weren't blowing hot air. When it comes down to it, the best person to ask about any specific person's vagina and how they get off, is the woman it's attached to, provided she even uses it. It's hard to believe, but there are women out there that have never masturbated and have no g-spot. These women have NEVER gotten off and are OK with it because they don't know what they're missing. In my opinion, they should all be tied to a bed and... well... you know.
Keep in mind that ALL women can get off from clitoral stimulation, if her mood is right and you learn how to read her. It can take a couple tries to learn what they like(because many women wont even fucking let you know beforehand). Women do specific things when they need you to change what you're doing. She will rock her hips to guide you where to go and how fast/hard to do it.
FIRST TYPE
The most common type of vagina is the one with a short clitoris and a little feeling in the vagina. They have the most stereotypical g-spot: about an inch inside, behind the clit. These women are the ones that fake orgasms most frequently because they don't usually achieve orgasms from just sex. If you're not a fucking athlete(pun intended), then getting these women off in most positions is a rare occurrence. Sex has to be geared(at least in part) towards what gets her off. It's easiest for them to get off on top(but she'll let you know that by throwing you off and mounting you when she gets close or she's just had enough).
They actually have the ability to get off without much emotion(at least more so then the second type). I believe it's because their g-spot is so small that when their g-spot is being stimulated, it excites them much more and they're compelled to take advantage of the situation. They typically enjoy penetration(g-spot stimulation and the feeling of a penis inside her; I'm making this distinction for a reason) much more then clitoral stimulation. It's easiest for them to get off while they are in control.
SECOND TYPE
The second most common type of vagina is the one with the large clitoris(~1/4 in. long and larger) and has a lot of feeling in the vagina. If your penis is in her, you're hitting her g-spot. These women don't necessarily get off the most frequently because sex is much more emotional for them. If she's not in the mood, you're not going to get her off. But if she IS in the mood, then hold on. These are the women that can cum 8 times in one night and can squirt(usually only from clitoral stimulation or intense g-spot stimulation). If you treat her right, you will both benefit from it greatly.
THIRD TYPE
The third type of vagina is the one with a varying sized clit(though usually smaller then average) and not enough feeling in the vagina to really say it has a g-spot. No matter what, these women cannot cum from intercourse alone. Some women have absolutely no feeling at all in their vagina and really only feel a little pressure(like pressing on your arm after you make it fall asleep by laying on it) or pain from tearing/stretching, but that's much rarer then simply not having a g-spot.
The good thing about this type of woman is that they're usually the least crazy(Now that I think about it, the only ex-gfs I talk to are the ones that I couldn't get off through intercourse alone) and the most likely to try new shit in the bedroom. And I'm told that you can have a nice sexual relationship that revolves around oral and anal sex.
That's the basic 101 on the way vaginas are built in relation to how they get off. Though, when whoever it was said, "all vaginas are different", they weren't blowing hot air. When it comes down to it, the best person to ask about any specific person's vagina and how they get off, is the woman it's attached to, provided she even uses it. It's hard to believe, but there are women out there that have never masturbated and have no g-spot. These women have NEVER gotten off and are OK with it because they don't know what they're missing. In my opinion, they should all be tied to a bed and... well... you know.
A GUIDE TO FOREPLAY AND GETTING IN HER PANTS FOR THE FIRST TIME
Watching a woman squirm with uncomfortable excitement, especially before the first time you have sex is fun to watch(and to cause). I like to be sneaky with it too. Surprise is a woman's best friend. Nothing turns them on more then doing what they weren't expecting. Look at this: http://www.slightesttouch.com/
It's an electrode that you put on a nerve that leads directly to a woman's vagina. No, I'm not telling you to buy a product. I'm telling you about a nerve that will side-swipe a woman and make her take off her panties for you.
If you look at where the nerve goes, it runs from the inside bottom of the foot, past the little bone that sticks out on the side of your ankle, up to the side of your knee, up your thigh and MISSES THE MALE GENITALIA COMPLETELY. Oh well, but it goes right in to a vagina and you may as well be rubbing her pussy, if you start rubbing that nerve. Go ahead and find it on yourself. You can feel it, but it's not going to do anything remotely like what it does for her. Memorize it. It is the sniper rifle in the FPS that is a woman's defenses.Picture this: You're on a first date and ya'll are at your place watching a movie. You took her out to dinner beforehand and let her get to know you. You were a respectful, honest and funny guy, so she feels safe and is having fun. Now, there's two things that are missing at this point: the intention/possibility of sex and you making the first move. What do you do? You put your hand on her leg. That's a very innocuous show of affection most of the time, but for us, it's going to get us laid and best of all, she won't even see it coming. Nobody has done this to her before.
After your hands been there for a minute or two, start rubbing her leg at the knee. There's nothing weird about that, again, innocuous affection. Then, rub the inside of her leg, lightly stroke that nerve and don't let off it. Eventually start wondering up the leg. After 15-20 minutes, I guarantee that her pussy will be soaking wet and she will be screaming on the inside. If she's breathing heavy and she's opened up her legs a little and it's obvious that she's turned on, kiss her. If that turns in to a make out session, your hand goes to her boob. That's just make out law. 10 seconds of first base immediately permits second base(groping). She'll go with it.
That's awesome. A couple of christians just rang my doorbell and talked to me about how I needed jesus for 5 minutes.
Now, let's say this woman REALLY liked you and she wants to get a second date out of you, so she's STILL going to hold out, despite being in sexual agony. But you're a nice guy and planned on having a second date anyways, right? RIGHT? Okay, let's thwart her plans.
Okay, you two made out for a while and you got some boob, but it didn't go any further then that, so you guys got bored of kissing and went back to watching the movie. You were hoping to see those titties without a bra by now, but it's okay. We like challenges and watching women battle themselves for the sanctity of their non-existent hymen that was busted years ago is so retarded, it's fun. Let's make her life a living hell with clothes on.
A WOMAN'S NECK
Is her Achilles heel, as you probably already know, so other guys know too and she's probably already had that kind of attention many times. But the truth is that every great woman has been taken down by the timing and gentle caress of a man that knew kissing a woman on the back of her neck, for some reason, makes her lower her defenses and moistens her panties. This isn't the first weapon in our arsenal, but it's a strong one.
After the make out session and her rejection(if there was one; there usually isn't and the leg thing and the first kiss is usually just the thing that unlocks the door of awkwardness that was blocking you two from ripping each other's clothes off when you walked in the door; if she's at your house, she knows what can happen), get more comfortable. Lay down on the couch. Cuddle like a couple would. You guys aren't exactly strangers anymore. You ripped down a wall in half an hour that takes most guys days to scale. Get comfortable. You got this.
If that nerve on her leg was the sniper rifle on this date, then a well timed kiss on the neck will be the close range shot gun. If you guys didn't get in a position that has easy access to her neck, it's cool. We've got this. Ask her to lean forward for a second and slip your arm behind her like it's 1950 and you're biff puting his arm around his girl. And while your back there, gently kiss the back of her neck for a few seconds... or if her damn hair is in the way, as close to that as possible. She'll likely let out a little moan or just melt or some shit. If she's showing sines of being further turned on and you may have just turned the notch up another degree, I usually go for the pants button or just slip my hand in to her pants, if they aren't that tight. If she still protests, then just try periodically for the rest of the night or find some kryptonite.
It's an electrode that you put on a nerve that leads directly to a woman's vagina. No, I'm not telling you to buy a product. I'm telling you about a nerve that will side-swipe a woman and make her take off her panties for you.
If you look at where the nerve goes, it runs from the inside bottom of the foot, past the little bone that sticks out on the side of your ankle, up to the side of your knee, up your thigh and MISSES THE MALE GENITALIA COMPLETELY. Oh well, but it goes right in to a vagina and you may as well be rubbing her pussy, if you start rubbing that nerve. Go ahead and find it on yourself. You can feel it, but it's not going to do anything remotely like what it does for her. Memorize it. It is the sniper rifle in the FPS that is a woman's defenses.Picture this: You're on a first date and ya'll are at your place watching a movie. You took her out to dinner beforehand and let her get to know you. You were a respectful, honest and funny guy, so she feels safe and is having fun. Now, there's two things that are missing at this point: the intention/possibility of sex and you making the first move. What do you do? You put your hand on her leg. That's a very innocuous show of affection most of the time, but for us, it's going to get us laid and best of all, she won't even see it coming. Nobody has done this to her before.
After your hands been there for a minute or two, start rubbing her leg at the knee. There's nothing weird about that, again, innocuous affection. Then, rub the inside of her leg, lightly stroke that nerve and don't let off it. Eventually start wondering up the leg. After 15-20 minutes, I guarantee that her pussy will be soaking wet and she will be screaming on the inside. If she's breathing heavy and she's opened up her legs a little and it's obvious that she's turned on, kiss her. If that turns in to a make out session, your hand goes to her boob. That's just make out law. 10 seconds of first base immediately permits second base(groping). She'll go with it.
That's awesome. A couple of christians just rang my doorbell and talked to me about how I needed jesus for 5 minutes.
Now, let's say this woman REALLY liked you and she wants to get a second date out of you, so she's STILL going to hold out, despite being in sexual agony. But you're a nice guy and planned on having a second date anyways, right? RIGHT? Okay, let's thwart her plans.
Okay, you two made out for a while and you got some boob, but it didn't go any further then that, so you guys got bored of kissing and went back to watching the movie. You were hoping to see those titties without a bra by now, but it's okay. We like challenges and watching women battle themselves for the sanctity of their non-existent hymen that was busted years ago is so retarded, it's fun. Let's make her life a living hell with clothes on.
A WOMAN'S NECK
Is her Achilles heel, as you probably already know, so other guys know too and she's probably already had that kind of attention many times. But the truth is that every great woman has been taken down by the timing and gentle caress of a man that knew kissing a woman on the back of her neck, for some reason, makes her lower her defenses and moistens her panties. This isn't the first weapon in our arsenal, but it's a strong one.
After the make out session and her rejection(if there was one; there usually isn't and the leg thing and the first kiss is usually just the thing that unlocks the door of awkwardness that was blocking you two from ripping each other's clothes off when you walked in the door; if she's at your house, she knows what can happen), get more comfortable. Lay down on the couch. Cuddle like a couple would. You guys aren't exactly strangers anymore. You ripped down a wall in half an hour that takes most guys days to scale. Get comfortable. You got this.
If that nerve on her leg was the sniper rifle on this date, then a well timed kiss on the neck will be the close range shot gun. If you guys didn't get in a position that has easy access to her neck, it's cool. We've got this. Ask her to lean forward for a second and slip your arm behind her like it's 1950 and you're biff puting his arm around his girl. And while your back there, gently kiss the back of her neck for a few seconds... or if her damn hair is in the way, as close to that as possible. She'll likely let out a little moan or just melt or some shit. If she's showing sines of being further turned on and you may have just turned the notch up another degree, I usually go for the pants button or just slip my hand in to her pants, if they aren't that tight. If she still protests, then just try periodically for the rest of the night or find some kryptonite.
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